“There are two days in the week about which and upon which I never worry… Yesterday and Tomorrow.”
~Robert Jones Burdette

I want to start this off by asking: “how many of your worries and fears have actually taken place?” Most of our fears end up only happening in our heads, over and over, but never in reality. Does this seem as out of balance to you as it does me?

When it comes to my own life, I’ve been recognizing some of the fears I live out and believe subconsciously. A few times I have been able to see a hidden belief I’m living out, in turn creating it to happen. Having the ability to introspectively see myself clearly, I am able to shift my outlook in order to change my actions as well as the outcome. While there are many more ways to cut unhealthy fear from your life, here are a few that I personally find help me:

1. Think Positively. Ever heard of the saying “what you see is what you get?” well it’s the same with thinking. Thinking is envisioning something in our minds and whatever it is we envision sets the tone of what we are allowing to come into our lives. Do you want to make more money? Imagine making more money as something that is inevitable, instead of a slim possibility. In order for something to happen, we have to make it happen. Everything begins in our minds, which then vibrate out into the universe. Positive thoughts and reinforcement is invaluable in creating what we want to have and happen in our lives.

2. Have The Courage To Pursue. Courage is a key word when it comes to living fearlessly (or almost fearless anyway). Determine what it is you want to accomplish along with what kind of life you want to be living daily and then take action! Keeping fear in your mind and in your thoughts about who and what you are, is only helping you soak that fear up. Instead, focus on the fact that YOU hold all the power you need in succeeding. Believe in yourself and your capabilities; you might even surprise yourself!

3. Let Go. Worries? Who needs them? Letting go of all your limiting fear-based ideas and beliefs will not only help you feel incredibly lighter, but will also boost your mood and make room for positive, more confident thought patterns. Realize that it is not your responsibility to control every aspect of every situation, understanding that everything is as it should be. Let go of any expectations that were never fulfilled and move on! Staying in a place you know cannot change, is not self-serving, get out of there and create new outcomes with your new freedom.

4. Love Yourself. The first person we should give unconditional love to, is ourselves. If we don’t love ourselves, complete with our “mistakes”and “flaws”, how do we attract love and good things in our lives? Learning to accept who you are and loving your authentic self will help wash away a lot of fears you may not even know you had. Don’t let other people and your fears stop you from dancing to that beautiful song, stop you from taking risks, or stop you from speaking your mind. Whatever the outcome is, it is much better than limiting who you are, and who you can be. Loving yourself completely will prevent you from feeding into the worry if something does not work out as you hope. Results do not define who you are, you are defined by how you got there.

Fearful living takes a lot more energy than fearless living. At the end of the day, we just need to hold awareness of where we are sending our energy and focus. Once you start incorporating more of a fearless mindset, (if you haven’t already),  you will begin to experience life’s moments at a whole new level, one of lightness and enjoyment. Here’s to living on the lighter side!

-Love and Peace, J.